Another player of mine carried out an assault after a harmless jersey tug! Another one gone! Now I'm down to a  7 child team! After losing 1 to a leg break and 2 to pulling their kids from the game altogether after getting pyshically abused last game. Getting reasonsible aggressiveness back from timidity is relatively easy but getting the other end of the spectrum is another thing altogether.

Please help

also set up players conduct in the game.

Phuabh

it's importance to set rules ( players like rules ) and also issued them Players code of conduct.

Respect for the Laws of the Game and competition rules:

Playing for the team, and for the team to win, is the most fundamental part of the game. But not winning at any cost. Fair Play, good sportsmanship and respect for all others in the game are fundamentally important.

1.      Knowing and play according to the Laws, competition rules within the spirit of the game.

2.      Fair play. Be fair always no matter what the cost.

3.      Not bully or take an unfair advantage of another competitor. .

4.      Tackles can be tenacious but never unsporting.

5.      Do not commit intentional fouls or charge in a violent or dangerous manner.

For this entire season I've burned sportsmanship into their heads. Myself and my assistants praise our kids on the field as well as the other team. All too often when my kids in the past accidently knocked a player over they've stopped what they were doing often letting the ball go to help the other player up. Kicking the ball out of bounds when a player gets hurt either side and clapping when a player gets up from an injury either side. Taking a loss with a smile  and pride in a well played game. We were known as the the team with the loud coaches that had kids that played good soccer and were great sportsmen. These were my kids until now two games ago when the incident happened. Which I will describe.

Prior to the game I had received warning from other coaches that the team we were going to play was very dirty and their coach was praising highly aggressive behavoir. I had all earrings removed not taped as is acceptable by league policy. I also told my kids not to return the wicked behavoir and told them in no un certain terms that retaliation would not be accepted. In turn during that game I watched helplessly as one of my kids had their heads bounced off steel post from a push when they didn't have the ball. No Call. A Flying cross body that would have made any pro wrestler proud. Countless elbows that cut my kids open. No Call. A punch to the face of my daughter after she performed footwork on one of the two that made him look so silly that his reaction was to sprint back stand in front of her and drop her. (On the street I would have gone to prison. On the Pitch as a coach I had to endure) I roared at the opposing coach to control his two monsters where he just gave me a smirk which again on the street I would have gone to prison. (In these situations being a soccer coach SUCKS! because now I'm fighting to control my emotions and those of my parents!) Second Half these behavoiurs continue when 5 minutes in my prize striker turns her back to make a pass back to the midfielder where one of the monsters walks up looked directly at the back of her leg and delivers a blow that snaps her leg. NO CALL! After making sure she was well bundled up and on her way to hospital. The game continued in the same fashion! Now my kids are too intimidated to go near the ball and what was once an even game now has turned into a rout! At NO point in the game did my kids retaliate except my daughter who after recieving a few elbows got into one of their faces and stated that she would kick the living S*** out of him if he continued. ( In one moment I was proud of her for standing her ground and in the same instant disappointed for her language which I know shes heard from me!)When the final whistle was blown the opposing coach praised his kids for being so aggressive. With extreme control ( and helpful words from my assistants.) I walked my kids onto the field to shake hands. I would not even touch his hand  but told him that his time as coach and his two twin sons season were over.  Long after the kids left the field and no where in sight he came to me and said that aggression should be praised trying to plead his case. I explained very calmly that there is a difference between aggression and what was displayed on the field by his players. ( Honestly I wanted to drag his business suit butt into the parking lot and meet ex combat vets foot.) Instead as I swore his season and his twin sons seasons are over after a very bitter dispute with the league conveynor. Fortunately many parents from his team are pleased as their kids are no longer being abused and feeling embarrassed by his and his sons behaviour.

During practice prior to the last game. I praised them for their ability to ignore the onslaught they faced. And in fairness they looked like a hockey team, black eyes, missing teeth and stiches. In the last game it was now my kids that looked like the animals and now I'm extremely embarrassed. I can understand their frustration but I want to get them back to being the good kids that they were. Thats all. I dont need codes of conduct read off to me or critisisms of my coaching style.  I just want my kids back to being the kids that enjoyed playing hard and loved playing the style of soccer we played. I've lost two kids due to the brutality of the one game their parent have pulled them for the season. One to a broken leg. And now two due to stupidity on their own part. I'm at the absolute minimum players possible and would like suggestions as to how to approach it when my two dummies return. Hopefully they will get the mesage from their suspension if not. Now what? I need some serious help here.